The world of narcissists can seem like a labyrinth full of dead ends for most of us. Why? They seem to behave in a unique way that doesn’t make sense at all. Well, for them, it makes all the sense, and it helps to keep their mysterious allure.
But one thing is true: we know that they all are different people who possess their very own traits, but there are some weird things all narcissists do, and we are here to tell you more about them.
This is important because, besides being an interesting topic, it is also a way you can learn more about narcissists and how to identify them faster. We live in a malignant world, so it is better to be prepared.
So, here are some of the creepiest things all narcissists do! Read on and dive into their messed-up worlds.
They have a ghostly presence
Many times, if you pay attention, you can notice that narcissists seem to appear and vanish like ghosts. One moment they are here, the next moment they are in a completely different place, and then they are right behind you.
This is not a coincidence! Narcissists have a way of moving through life stealthily, just like the predators you can encounter in the wild. This is unsettling, but you should be aware that they have such powers. It’s like they own a hidden ability to cloak themselves in the shadows until they feel it’s the right time to make their presence known.
This is a psychological trick that they use to keep you on edge. Since you never know when they are watching, you will always be cautious, expecting them to appear at any time. Narcissists don’t just manipulate with words; they manipulate with their very presence.
Always one step ahead
Have you ever noticed how narcissists always seem to walk ahead of you? This happens more often than you think, and it is another power move they use to manipulate you. These guys live for dominance and control, and when these two things are missing in their lives, everything becomes shaky.
When they are walking on the street with you, you can notice that they always walk ahead of the group. They lead, and you need to follow. This is how narcissists think things should work.
You might feel like a shadow struggling to keep up with the person it belongs to. This is not a nice feeling, and again, this is something that makes you more weak and susceptible to manipulation. This is all planned. This is what they are aiming for. To make you dependent on them.
You might think they are trying to become you
Reading this might send a shiver down your spine, and we totally get it. This seems to be plain weird. Why would they want to become you? Well, they don’t truly want to do that, but considering how carefully techies are analyzing you from head to toe, this can be the first impression.
It is all calculated. They watch, study, and absorb, not because they feel a connection or they want to copy you, but because they don’t know how to offer an authentic response. What makes this so scary is the fact that you feel like watching a distorted version of yourself. At first, you might not notice that this is happening, but after you are aware of it, things will change, and you will feel like this remains imprinted on your brain.
They like to be perceived as innocent
If never saying sorry were a competition, then they would be champions. Narcissists never apologize, and after all, why would they? Apologies require self-awareness, accountability, and conscience, and they don’t have any of these.
Narcissists see themselves as god-like beings, and they want you to see them the same. If they are perfect, they can’t do anything wrong, right? So, when something goes wrong, guess who’s to blame? You. Always you.
Most of the time they will pay the victim and will show no remorse. It’s always someone else’s fault. They did everything they could, and no one was grateful for their sacrifice. How dare you try to blame them for something they have never done?
They seem to be emotionless
Most of us are able to feel that fear gripping our chests from time to time, but this is not the case for narcissists. Anxiety is not something familiar to them, and indeed, this is kind of creepy. They don’t seem to panic no matter what, and that sense of urgency is not present even when panic is a general state around them.
It’s as if their emotional world is permanently set to mute. Everyone around them might be worried or panicking, but they act like nothing happened. Narcissists are calm and flat, and they almost look robotic.
For example, they could be involved in accidents, and if they get out alive, you will notice that they are not shocked at all. If they receive bad news, this is not a big deal to them, and they will sleep at night like nothing happened.
The obsession with perfection
Narcissists believe that their bodies are temples, and this is not really a bad thing; we all should start to be more like this. But what makes these guys different is that they treat this thing as an obsession. They want their bodies to be perfect. This is something we all know is impossible.
They want health, they want looks, and they want flawlessness. They are the target audience for all of those crazy diets or fitness programs. Also, you might find them following elaborate skincare routines. This is another thing many narcissists do.
Women are frequent visitors to their plastic surgeon’s office, and men spend hours and hours at the gym trying to sculpt the perfect body. But beneath all of these, they are completely scared of imperfection. This is the worst thing that can happen to them. Unfortunately, as we already said, no one is perfect, so they can’t outrun this fear forever.
They rarely use your name when addressing you
A name is more than just a simple word. Your name encapsulates the essence of self, and as a result, it holds some weight. Unfortunately, if you want to hear your name more, narcissists are not the ones who will help you with that.
They tend to replace your name with nicknames. It’s easier for them to manipulate you this way. Generally, they will use things that are silly and don’t reflect your personality. This is their way to belittle you without putting too much effort in.
This is a subtle, yet calculated, behavior they use as a power move. By refusing to use your real name, the narcissist slowly erodes your sense of self. Over time, you start to feel less like you and more like the silly character they assigned to you.
If you want to read more about narcissists, this book is an amazing starting point: Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting, Codependency and Complex PTSD
You should also read: 12 American Names That You Barely Hear Anymore
